First and for most Happy Thanksgiving to all of us living in the U.S.! (and to you living outside the U.S. as well)
As you know today is about being grateful for everything and everyone we have in our lives.
And even though we are generally grateful, the truth is that is challenging to stay grateful through out every moment of our day, none the less during holiday season.
Yesterday, out of the blue (it usually comes from no where) I had a fired up argument about organic products with my husband –this is a sensitive subject for me. I wont go into details but our steamed conversation reminded me of the message in this post. –hence the why I’m writing about it.
I was taking every word very personally, my ego was shouting louder and louder.
My gift to you (to us) today is a reminder to don’t take anything personally (which helps us immensely to stay grateful). Is challenging to be grateful when our mind is in defensive mode reacting to those around us.
Family dynamics can be complicated. Before we start to recite everything we are grateful for today, let’s take in these 3 analogies that can help us chill-out right when our loved ones start pressing our buttons.
Ultimately the reminder we want to keep in our head (and heart) as fresh as a daisy is:
Number one: We are all doing the best we can with what we know. –Specially me and specially you.
Number two: Forgive ASAP –Specially oneself
Don Miguel Ruiz author of The Four Agreements says:
“Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds…Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up….But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement.”
Hoping Miguel’s thought and my visual analogies linger in your mind past today. I’m closing with a kind reminder for the holidays:
Stay debt free, stay in love and stay immune to all the balls thrown your way. (if you didn’t understand the last one watch the video above)
Gracias desde el fondo de mi corazón!
I would love to know how you used these analogies. Did you have a visual reminder of any of them while taking something personally? I’m also available to be your accountability partner if you need one to share this practice. I thought I would offer myself since I love this conversation. Remember that what we share can be medicine for someone else and for sure a step closer to a stronger vida!